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Keeping God First in Marriage

Are you keeping God at the head of your marriage?

By Dana Randolph

In marriage there will be some good days and some bad days. There will be the highs and the lows. There will be ups and there will be downs. Some people often question how most couples get through the tough moments in a marriage. Tough moments can be the loss of a job, it could be a health issue, or it can be just common marriage woes, like lack of effective communication or maybe lack of attention. Nevertheless, when we keep God at the center of our union, we can weather the storms that come our way. The key is putting God first. The bible tells us in Matthew 6:33 “But seek ye first the kingdom of God, and his righteousness; and all these things shall be added unto you”. We know by reading the entire text, Matthew was speaking on worrying about what we should eat or what we should wear.

By keeping God first, we can eliminate so many negative things that come about. We can eliminate worry; we can eliminate doubt and we can eliminate fear. When we invite God into our marriage we are saying, Lord we trust you with it all. Praying together consistently and studying the word together is vital if we desire God to be the head of our union. Not just only those things but giving complete authority over decisions and choices places God at the wheel and allows us to trust His guidance.

When praying, I always ask God to guide my footsteps. I ask for wisdom on how to handle my husband and children. I ask God how to communicate better and help me to manage my emotions. I also ask for wisdom on how we should manage our money and spend it. This is key. You’ll know if it’s right or not. Keeping God first in marriage leaves no room for the enemy to prosper in any attack. Although he might try to tear the union apart, because that’s what he does, he will not be successful in attempting to come against a couple who draws their strength from God.

The key is coming together giving God full reign over our marriages and households. How can two walk together unless they agree? Getting on one accord by praying with each other at the beginning of the day. Asking God to guide decisions both individually and collectively. Making sure He is the head and allowing His will to overtake our own selfish wants. By doing so will help any couple navigate through those tough times that may come about. Hopefully with God as the head, those moments won’t feel as tough because you have weather guarded them with the one who can do all things but fail.

5 ways to keep God first in your marriage

  1. Make the choice to keep Him first
  2. Start your day with prayer
  3. Make a schedule to pray together
  4. Ask for wisdom when making decisions
  5. Try to study the word daily- Start with 3 verses