By Dana Randolph
I have always been a firm believer that marriage is what you make it and what you put into is what you get back out of it. Any couple who desires a healthy marriage understands the need to serve and to sow. Whatever you sow into your marriage, good or bad, it will breed life. That is why it is vital to sow good seeds into your union. Even our words have power to destroy or uplift. The bible tells us in Proverbs 18:21 that “Death and life are in the power of the tongue: and they that love it shall eat the fruit thereof”.
When speaking to our spouses, we must be careful with what we allow to come out of our mouths. We must think before we speak and act. Even in disagreements, we must consider the actions and reactions. Being fruitful in marriage is not hard; us as individuals make things hard because we tend to get into our feelings and emotions over even the smallest issues. A lot of times, some things aren’t even issues at all. We tend to make more out of a situation than what it really is.
The fruit of a marriage is merely based on what we are pouring into our marriage and each other. Fruit can be good or bad; Think of the things you say to your spouse daily. Is it good fruit you are sowing? The words and actions we display daily are the actual seeds we are planting. Love and kindness are a very good seed to sow. Laughter is another one. I love to laugh and crack jokes with my husband; it keeps us going and brings us closer. So, learn to laugh a bit more and try to focus on the good in each other rather than always pointing out the bad.
The bible touches on the fruits of the spirit. These are the things we as married people can use as a reference to pour into each other. Galatians 5:22-23 “But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, self-control; against such things there is not law”. By using the fruits of the spirit as a guide to a healthy and more prosperous marriage, us married folks will always win.
Try it today! Try speaking a little kinder. Try being a little kinder. Practice a little more patience. See how it works. It doesn’t hurt to want to pour and sow good seeds into your marriage; it just takes effort.
5 ways to plant good seeds into your marriage.
- Always look to serve each other
- Practice being patient with each other
- Speak kind to each other
- Respect each other
- Choose to love each other even during the low moments